Roommate Stories & Campus Life Blog

One of my roommates is my old friend Eva. We met in high school during a time when I didn’t have many friends, and she helped me feel understood, valued and seen. Research shows that having a friend with positive energy increases your own happiness by 15%, but Eva was such an awesome friend that it felt like her friendship was responsible for 70% of my happiness. However, as we both started university, our friendship dynamic has shifted. I started to make new friends and conc

Since I have already analyzed Eva’s personality and behaviour, I wanted to do some research to better understand what’s going on and the types of friendships I will have in the future. The change in Eva’s behaviour from being such a supportive friend in high school to the total opposite now interested me a lot, especially because I am currently taking a Family Studies course. One theory I learned about in class that resonated with me is the Socioemotional Selectivity Theory.

It’s been a little bit stressful here at the apartment lately. I feel really bad for her, but Sofia has been bringing the mood down. I think she feels closest to me out of everyone living here, so she keeps coming to me with all of her problems, and while I love to listen and help, it’s just getting to be too much! Recently she broke up with her boyfriend and she isn’t taking it well. When they were together, I barely saw Sofia at all. She spent pretty much 24/7 with him, w

I apologized to Sofia today. I realized I had been kind of ostracizing her over the past few days because she was being too much for me to handle. I think seems to be depressed, and like I mentioned before was using me as her primary support system post breakup. It was getting to be too much for me so I thought that stepping away and not answering her texts, spending more time outside the apartment, etc, would help cool everything down and make her realize she was putting t

My roommate Sarah and I have been experiencing conflict recently. It felt like when we first started living together, we hit it off wonderfully, but as time has progressed, we keep experiencing hiccups in our friendship. It started as little pet peeves, like how she won’t switch the garbage bags out, or leaves empty boxes in the cupboards. But it has developed into a distain for a lot more living habits she has, like how she consistently leaves her dishes in the sink instead

I took some time on how I was feeling and looked at the feedback I had received from my first blog post and decided to have a conversation with Sarah. I learned in my family studies class about the importance of rules in friendship, and realized even though we are roommates, Sarah and I had never actually come to an agreement on what we would like from one another as friends, but as two girls sharing an apartment. I decided before I communicated with her to ensure I was leve